Step 1: Vision - Alignment Vortex of Self Discovery
Updated: Aug 10
I want to delve into the first step of the alignment vortex of self-discovery, which is vision.
So, I want to ask you to take a moment and reflect on your own journey. Look back at what you were dreaming and hoping for in the past. Chances are, you have already accomplished some aspects of those dreams. Yet, as high achievers, we often set the bar impossibly high and struggle to feel content with our current achievements.
This realization hit me hard when someone posed a simple yet profound question:
Will it ever be enough?
At that time in my life, my answer was a resounding no, and that troubled me deeply. Why did I always feel like it was never enough? No matter what milestones I reached, I couldn't fully appreciate them because I was already fixated on the next target. Perhaps you can relate to this constant chase for more, always pushing for the next level. And this is where step one, vision, becomes crucial.
To help get clear on your vision, you have to get clear on what you want.
When someone asks us what we want, our brain and mind are not naturally programmed to provide a clear answer. Often, we find ourselves responding with "I don't know," "I don't want this," or "I'm not sure, but something like this would be nice."
So, how clear are you about your vision? It doesn't have to be a meticulously detailed plan spanning five, ten, or twenty years. In fact, that level of long-term planning can feel overwhelming, but there might be an essence, a picture, or an idea of your dreams and what you want in your mind. The next step is to dive deeper into the underlying motivations.
What is it about those desires that truly captivates you?
Is it the freedom to enjoy your life with ample time and space?
Is it the ability to travel or the independence that comes with having financial resources at your disposal?
Perhaps it's about prioritizing health, feeling good about your body, and eliminating pain.
Vision encompasses a range of possibilities, and I encourage you to explore the essence of what you want. It's not about the exact details or appearance; it's about understanding the "why" behind your desires.
Next, it's crucial to ensure that what you are creating aligns with your own terms. It's your vision, not someone else's. It's easy to get caught up in wanting what others have achieved, whether it's their wealth, lifestyle, or accomplishments.
However, it's important to pause and ask yourself, "Is this truly what I want my life to look like?"
If we don't pause and reflect, it becomes easy to get caught up in building something based on someone else's blueprint. We tend to believe that their way is the only way because we don't know what we don't know. Modeling someone who has already achieved what you desire is indeed a valuable strategy and we convince ourselves that we should replicate what has worked for others, even if it doesn't align with our own vision, values, and beliefs.
Let's take a moment to reflect on our current frustrations.
Where are we currently following someone else's rules or methods because we believed that was what we were supposed to do? It can be a sneaky trap to pursue someone else's results and model their approach simply because we desire the same outcome. However, what we often overlook is that their way works for them because it is their way. This isn't about one way being right or wrong, or someone else's way being better or worse.
The missing piece is defining our own way, our own rules. If there were no pre-established rules, and we were free to create our own, how would we do things differently? We need to take the time to slow down, pause, and ask ourselves these questions. Without clarity on what we truly want, how will we even recognize that we are deviating from our own path? It's easy to become enthralled by someone else's results and vision because we desire the essence of what they have achieved—whether it's financial success, freedom, or other outcomes. So, let's conduct a self-awareness audit and check in to see if our frustration stems from expecting things to look different.
Without a clear understanding of what we want, why we want it, and the essence of our desires, it becomes far too easy to fall into the trap of doing what we should or what others expect of us.
To begin, check in with yourself and identify what truly matters to you. Consider your ideal schedule, desired workload, and the number of individuals you wish to manage. Do you relish the idea of leading and guiding others, or would you rather avoid the responsibilities associated with managing people? There is no right or wrong way. However, when you have clarity about your vision, you can identify what ignites your passion and excitement. Uncover the essence of what you genuinely desire and question why you are on this journey. Deep down, within your unconscious, you hold the answers and cravings. Be gentle with yourself, and don't be too hard on yourself.
If you are currently experiencing frustration, overwhelm, burnout, or a sense of something missing, it's time to evaluate whether you are following someone else's prescribed vision instead of your own.
I encourage you to take the necessary time to sit with your thoughts. Whether you choose to journal, meditate, contemplate, or even feel overwhelmed, remember that wherever you are on your journey is perfect. There is no right or wrong and no need to rush. Start thinking about what you genuinely want.
Allow yourself space and time to gain clarity. You may discover that you don't want to build your business solely through social media, or you might love the idea of selling on social media but wish to do it in a way that feels aligned and supportive to you. It could involve finding a balance that allows you to post when inspired rather than adhering to a strict seven-day schedule. Alternatively, you might prefer to build your business through face-to-face interactions.
The key is getting clear on what truly lights you up and excites you.
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